Singaporeans’ romance, marriage fraud, picking up girls, courtship behavior, etc.

My Singaporean family is the same,They watch Chinese romance content on YouTube every day.

They don’t watch the screen, but play it as background music while working from home.

People watching, huh?

Compared to Japan, I get the impression that there are many people in Singapore who want a girlfriend or boyfriend.

In Japan, there has been a significant increase in the number of young people who say, “I don’t need a boyfriend or girlfriend,” or “I’d rather not have sex even if I get married.”

The latter has even led to the creation of a dating service specifically for that purpose.

To reiterate, I live in Singapore with Singaporeans and Malaysians.

Even in their 30s, some of my relatives don’t have boyfriends or girlfriends. For them, Japanese anime and manga are a part of their daily enjoyment, so they don’t feel the need for a boyfriend or girlfriend. They are what you might call anime otaku.

On the other hand, I actually had a Singaporean friend who insisted, “If I don’t fall in love, I’ll die!”

For some reason, that friend was cheated on, divorced, and then had all her subsequent boyfriends cheat on her, leading to a complete loss of contact. I wonder why. Maybe it’s just a matter of compatibility.

In 2024, there was a case where a Singaporean was deceived by a romance scam and transferred money. It is remarkable that this occurred without ever meeting in person. As AI continues to evolve, it is likely that more criminals will utilize AI to engage in romance scams for financial gain.

Double doors at the entrance in Singapore

So, many houses are kept in a state where the wind can blow through, but the doors and windows are locked.

It looks like the image here.

I guess there are a lot of lonely people. I don’t see many single people around.

The vast majority of couples share the same bedroom.

Singaporeans set their air conditioners to a lower temperature than in Japan, so it’s too cold for me.

My family has one room per person, so we each have our own room.

Being able to sleep in the same room as someone who snores or grinds their teeth is a special skill. That’s amazing. I couldn’t do it.

There are quite a few Japanese people who are divorced but remarried in Singapore.

In Singaporean society, approximately one in three people have experienced divorce.

In a blog written by a Japanese person, it was stated that “people with a history of divorce are shunned in Singapore.”

That’s not true.

At least in my circle of friends, there are several Singaporeans with a history of divorce.

The reasons for divorce include “my husband cheated on me” and “my wife beat me.” In Singapore, divorce must be approved by the court (mandatory), so those seeking divorce must present evidence.

A friend who was beaten by his wife divorced a Singaporean (a researcher with a PhD).

They had bought a house, but it hadn’t been three years since they got married.

He isn’t interested in Japanese anime or manga, but he likes Japanese castles and food, and he was actively searching for a Japanese partner to remarry. Seeing his passion, I was truly impressed.

Singaporeans’ courtship behavior

There may be some Japanese people who do this, but for now, I will give some examples from my own experience.

・Rushing to Changi Airport and singing Japanese songs on the spot. Karaoke for one.

・Rushing to Changi Airport and reciting something like a poem.

・Preparing a gift.

・Inviting someone to move in together (a couple in their 20s who divorced after buying a house).

It seems that many Singaporeans use dating sites.

No one in my family uses it.

I tried registering once before, but I got the impression that there were a lot of foreign workers using it.

It seems to be easy to find people of the same religion.

I have friends who got married through dating sites. There are Japanese people too (who live in Japan). But they are a minority among my friends.

Romantic relationships in the workplace among Singaporeans

There is a Singaporean family who met at a company event and got married, even though they work in different departments of the same company.

There is an age difference of about six years between them, but I get the impression that this is more common in Singapore than in Japan.

My friend, who married an older woman (Japanese), also has a similar age difference. He met her on a language exchange website, not at work.

Singaporeans picking up girls

My Singaporean friends don’t hit on people.

On the contrary, I’ve heard stories of Singaporean women being hit on by Japanese men.

Singapore’s laws are much stricter than Japan’s. In 2023, there was actually a man who received four lashes for trying to kiss a woman he wasn’t dating.

In that sense, it seems like it would be safer to date in Singapore than in Japan.

Romance and marriage scams by Singaporeans

Rather than being Singaporean, they are likely foreign nationals with phone numbers from India or other countries.

There were news reports in 2023 about Singaporeans being deceived into transferring large sums of money.

In addition, there are notices posted everywhere warning about romance scams and spam.

Marriage of convenience by Singaporeans

This made the news in 2024. A Singaporean man living in Orchard entered into a sham marriage in exchange for money. The woman was a foreigner. He reportedly paid a monthly fee to work in Singapore.

It seems that they never lived together.

Singaporean couples (including married couples) arguing

It depends on the person, but the 70-something Singaporean couple I know have a verbal argument at least once a week. They used to argue more frequently in the past. However, they have never resorted to physical violence. It’s just loud shouting.

There’s also another Singaporean couple living on a different floor of the same building who occasionally have loud arguments, and it’s really noisy. It’s 2 a.m. at night.

Starting in 2025, Singapore may enter a transitional period where “noise detection (third-party evidence)” equipment will be officially implemented. Apparently, there are quite a few noise-related issues. It’s reassuring that the government is taking action.